Blame ?

Hi everybody...

What is blame ?

Well - according to the 10th edition of 'The Concise Oxford Dictionary'.... well, you can go & look it up for yourselves !! As for me....

Blame is that thing, that people do - when they look at the mirror & only see the faults in other people !!

Blame is that thing.... well.... when they claim to have been destroyed by an event - without thinking too hard about how, the same event, has played out for those..... those they claim to actually love ?!

You have all come across people like that....

You know the ones....

Just as they are about to change schools - you make a decision to stay, in the area you live in - just to avoid the whole upheaval of moving house, again & possibly screwing up your Son's prospects at school !!

You support them thru' - what my American readers would call - 'High school'. You try & do what is right for them.... sometimes the hard choices they do not like, or approve of !!

When you have sooooo little money, that you actually go with-out food.... especially when your Son wants to go on a trip to France with the school - you don't blame your Son, for the lack of money... you pay for the trip & hope he enjoys himself !!

When they have been bullied & you take the time, to not only stand up for them - by going head first into the Headteacher's office..... but, even when you have little or no money, you drive them to & from school..... day after day - so they do not miss those vital exams, the ones you - as parents hope they will really do sooooo well at, that you can look yourself, in the mirror & say..."My Son did that - I'm proud of him !!"

Even tho' - at the time.... he just doesn't want to know you, mainly because you don't really think the girl he has been dating, isn't really more than a money grabbing tart !!

I was & am proud of my Son... he tried to take his own life, but.... he came thru' it !! To see him graduate, from school - while those ass wipes of bully's didn't even bother to do the exams !!

Blame is that thing... when, as a parent, you don't attribute to your Son, when he doesn't do so good, when he takes his first college exams & decides - after 12 months, he wants to change courses - which means, if nothing else - that you have to support them for another 2 years..... instead of the one you were expecting !!

Blame is also that thing, that - again, as a parent - you do not hold against your Son, when - the same money grabbing tart - mentioned above - claims your Son raped her.....

When your Son says he didn't do it.... you believe him & say so... bluntly, when the police come to the house, to interview him !! No - you don't blame him - you take his side, that's what parents do.... especially when you just happen to believe him !!

Blame is that thing, which you hold with-in yourself... when your Son leaves College & does next to bugger all, for 2 years..... despite the fact you are trying to support his younger Sister, as she goes thru' college & then university.... a whole 5 years of love & devotion, that you try & share with both your children, even if one of them just thinks you are an abusive old fart... a dinosaur, from a different generation.... someone who knows bugger all, about life.... even tho', as a parent, you have had your own fair share of crap..... after all, no one really understands them, your children..... despite having been one, yourself - thru' far worse times then you hope they will ever know !!

Blame is that thing - I would say, you keep to yourself, but... when your Son has you arrested and you spend 24 hours in a police cell, before being given the shortest sentence possible - mainly because you plead guilty to "Common Assault"....... but, afterwards - you realise, your Son has just gone that one step too far..... Blame is the thing you feel, that knots you up, inside !!

Blame is that thing.... that thing, that you pour out, on those you claim to love - even when you are sending them text messages, which as a Husband, you can see your Wife sooooo upset, that no matter how hard you try.... even tho', it's your Son sending the texts - you can only blame yourself for !!

You try your best, as a parent... you offer your Son, the chance to spend the Summer at home - for free - but, he prefers to heap blame, upon blame.... thru' no fault of anyone's, but his failure to "move on" !!

How is it possible - after all you do, for your Children - can a Son blame you, for almost everything that is wrong in their life.... from childbirth, to living in Wales & having to live off pasta !!

You try your best.... but, after all is said & done - blame is for those who hand it out, not those... especially my Wife, who thru' no fault of her own, is being blamed & is sooooo upset, I wish you could actually see what you have done.... my Son... J !!

Live long & prosper... until next time..

Bye Bye